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| Cross Stitch design by Susan Ache from her "Summer Memories" book. |
And a happy 250th birthday to the United States of America! May we unify to work towards all the promises that inspired its founding.
The post title refers both to Gudrun Erla's latest GE Designs Quilt Along coming up this weekend (and yes, I look forward to taking part in it!) and also a return to the blog after a too long away break. I never expected after posting daily in April for Frédérique's ABC Quilt Challenge that I would not have posted anything more for almost two months! Admittedly though, after focusing on the blog for all of April, life pushed its way back in for May and June and kept me too preoccupied to post.
For starters, the weekend before the last day of the challenge was the opening day for our community garden's 2021 growing season. Each year we hold a parade and opening day activities in partnership with the Little League whose fields are next door to our garden. There was also a pop-up pantry distribution set up outside our two lots that day.
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| The report on the day's events from our community paper. |
In addition, this is a big Mayoral election year in NYC (I voted in the primary this morning) and there was also an election for new terms for the people serving on our community's Co-op Board. So there were plenty of city and community candidates at the garden event and then many candidate forums to attend (virtually) or watch in the weeks that followed.
Among them (left front corner of the cart) are this year's plant starts for our community garden to grow Serrano Peppers for Small Axe Peppers. What we grow and harvest will go towards making their Serrano Hot Sauce. For the last three years we have been one of many community gardens in our city that are paid to grow peppers for the company. In the last couple of years the company has also expanded their community garden growers program nationally. Our garden uses our earnings to buy the sauce at cost which we then sell as a fundraiser at our garden events.
This year, our garden has also been hosting the Ecology Club of a new charter school in our community. They first visited us back in April and then set up to come on Friday afternoons since the start of May and until the school year ends in June. We gave them their own garden bed to use as a growing lab and they help us with general garden maintenance tasks. I and another member supervised them in helping to plant the pepper plant starts we had picked up.
May also meant many celebration days too with Mother's Day and a milestone birthday for me (the big 6-0!). June brought in Father's Day and the same big birthday for my DH. Also in May, I got to make my first post-vaccination, in-person, overnight weekend visit to a good friend in New Jersey (who had also celebrated the same milestone birthday this year). We had a good time that weekend only marred by having our car engine seize up when DH came out to pick me up!
The good news is that it turns out to be a known issue with our model of car and the company covers replacement of the engine under a warranty. So while the repairs cost us nothing, the weeks it took to get a new engine and get it installed wound up completely upending our plans to travel down to my MIL's in North Carolina for DH's two week vacation that we had scheduled for this month. We were supposed to spend his birthday weekend down there but alas that did not come to be!
The worse part was that the cancellation of our trip meant that the second Quilt Retreat my MIL and I had looked forward to having during our stay was also nixed! So all this goodness will have to be unpacked and put to use at home in the coming weeks instead.
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| All packed up for a retreat and no way to go! |
As we head into the second quarter of the year, I thought I'd take some time to reflect on my Word of the Year. For me, the word this year is PLANNING.
For a few years now, I've been trying to understand how I get my projects from beginning to end and improve how efficiently I can do that. The goal is to minimize frustration and procrastination. Doing so allows me to actually get that "More Projects Than I Have Lifetime" list closer to being accomplished! I've come to learn that project overload doesn't help that process although I can't say that I don't keep doing it anyway (my RSC 2021 project list is a prime example of that)! However, not feeling like I am being buried by the overload means having a good understanding of what can be done in a given amount of time.
I've learned that part of that is planning. First you have to know what you want to do, then you have to truly understand what it takes to do it. In the words of Jessica Able, it's understanding whether something is a Task or a Project.
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| And this is posted in my quilt space to remind me of that! |
I have been guilty in the past of thinking something is a Task (Oh, I just have to make 30 of those blocks) but only when I start to try to tackle it, do I it realize it's actually a Project (Oh, to make 30 blocks, I have to cut 300 specific pieces and then sew sub-units, then sew sub-sections and then sew the sections together to make the blocks). Got to say that was an eye opener! Understanding that in advance reduces the number of curse words or minimizes the project depression (aka slogging) that happens later.
It also means that if I don't make a deadline, I know why instead of feeling like I failed. January was a case in point. I was thrilled with what I did get done yet it was no where near the complete list of things I had wanted to accomplish for the month. Yet pretty much everything that I fully evaluated and mapped out did get done. When things didn't get done in the time expected, I could usually point to where I either did not break down the tasks far enough or that I did not evaluate just how many tasks needed to be completed each day in order to meet the desired goal. As a result, the year started out on an up note instead of a downer.
While it may sound like a lot of trouble to go to for a hobby, I admit I truly like what I get to do, what comes out of it and want to be able to do even more. So if I'm going to make myself happy, I gotta know what it takes to be happier! As Bonnie Hunter has shared with us:
Be forewarned: This is a long one, text heavy and a little sad, although there is a some quilty news in the middle.
You know what they say about the best laid plans? The plan for Day 4 was the doctor's appointment that had been rescheduled to the morning and some grocery shopping on the way home. Both were accomplished and once back home the agenda was a break for lunch and a check of email and then back to the sewing.
However while I was checking email I got a text from my MIL. She was feeling very lonely since I had left two weeks ago. The reason I had taken the chance of traveling all the way to North Carolina where she lives despite the pandemic fears regarding holiday travel was that early in November her husband had passed after a three year battle with cancer (brain and prostate) and a stroke. It was a second marriage for them both and they had been happily married for 24 years.
After multiple surgeries, he had been released from a rehab center during the visit to her that I, my husband and oldest son made back in October of 2019. The rehab agency had consigned her husband just to home hospice care. My MIL had fought to continue with the occupational and physical therapy he had received while convalescing at the center. Because of her efforts, rather than just being bed ridden, he had been able to continue to enjoy limited movement around their house in a wheel chair at least partially under his own steam as she, a former senior care nurse, tended to his daily needs. In her words, had she left him to just languish in the bed or put him in a nursing home, he probably would have passed away from depression before last year ended.
However, along with the other tragedies of 2020, by late summer he began to slowly lose the ability for independent movement. My husband, I and our youngest son made plans to drive down for a return visit during my husband's last vacation for 2020, the week before Halloween. However, a few days before our planned departure, we learned that at that time, here in New York, there was still a very strict 14 day quarantine requirement for people returning from travel out of state. Neither my husband nor my son could do that as both had work obligations either immediately or within the week of our return so we had to cancel the trip. Unfortunately, three days after our planned arrival, my MIL's husband passed away. Like so many others with dying relatives during this pandemic, not only did we miss the opportunity to see him one last time, we were also unable to attend the funeral services.
The situation was made worse when two days before her husband was to be buried, both my husband and MIL received calls that my husband's youngest brother had also passed away (although not COVID related)! This was unexpected although not a total surprise. He had led a troubled life and had been estranged from the family for decades only reaching out periodically. The last time my MIL had spoken to him had been two years ago. The responsibility for arranging for cremation of his body fell to his oldest daughter here in NY and my MIL as next of kin. Needless to say all of that was complicated by the fact that the body was in Maryland so identifying the body and arranging for its cremation had to all be done long distance.
Fortunately, in addition to a few local friends and church members, my MIL had an out of town couple she was friends with who were able to come stay with her for awhile immediately after the funeral. Then she stayed with her former sister-in-law in Raleigh from the weekend before through the day after Thanksgiving.
After my husband and I discussed it and with the more relaxed return quarantine requirements that had by then been issued (requiring pre- and post-return COVID testing and only three days of quarantine before the second test), I booked round-trip train tickets to go to NC on the last day of November and stayed with her for two weeks which also allowed me to be with her for her birthday. My MIL is a quilter and I knew that after such a tough year, a mini quilt retreat would boost both of our spirits.
She had been planning to buy a sewing table for me to be able to comfortably sew on for the long visit. In the past, when I came down, we would be squeezed into her sewing space and I'd set up my machine on her cutting table. Instead, I purchased a Gidget table and had it delivered to her home. I knew Fanny, my trusty traveling Featherweight would fit perfectly in the table and I would be able to recess the machine since I had plans to bring a project to work on requiring space for easy Free motion quilting.
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| In the box were the projects I mailed down for the trip! |
This was my little work space set up in my MIL's late husband's "Man Cave". Her sewing room adjoins this room so we could "socially distance" yet still be in close proximity while sewing together. Even better, I left it there for her to use with her small travel machine or for me when I visit again. Although I adjusted the drop for my Featherweight, it can be readjusted for other small machines too. She has a friend from NY who comes down each summer to sew with her and has a large machine. She will be able to just pop the recessed area up and lock it in place to use the table as a flat surface with her machine.
The project I had plans for quilting was the Blue and White Spiderweb quilt that had been the second project picked for my "Blue and White Holiday Decorating" plan. It was inspired by the one made by Stitched In Color and using the Accuquilt Spiderweb die and more of the scraps from the AQS BOM stash. I had made the blocks as leader/enders while working on all the other mystery, quarantine, BOM and mini projects before my trip. I did get it to a top while in NC but didn't get around to layering and quilting it as you can see in the picture below.
While there I also got a few other tops done, like "Serendipity" (a Fons & Porter Easy Quilts Magazine pattern) using some of the leftovers from the "Modern Bohemia" BOM.....
....and "Indigo Weave" which I had kitted up from the blue fabrics leftover when I made Bonnie Hunter's "Double Delight" mystery early last year.
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| The blocks were still in progress here but the top is now finished. |
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| These were in the "Man Cave" where I was working. |
So the trip was a good one and my MIL was sad to see me go but appreciated that I was able to take time from my family and spend it with her. Of course as time has gone by she now has to get used to being in her home alone. Additionally she has been dealing with some nagging health issues so depending on what flares up, has good days and bad.
So Day 4's sewing got aborted because when she texted I called her and we had a real long talk: about her husband, about dealing with one's grief, about what she wants her life to be now as a widow. That last one is probably the most difficult for her to navigate. It is the first time in a long while that she has to think about just herself and it is not easy for her. I told her she was entitled to be sad but not to the point of stopping living. One of the ongoing discussions while I stayed with her was that she ate because I did but if I hadn't been there she might have not eaten frequently because she was often not hungry! One thing I had done while I was there was to check to see if she had Skype on her computer which is in her sewing room. She did, so when I got back I scheduled a Skye sewing session with her which she enjoyed.
So after our talk, I suggested we do another Skype session the next day. After ringing off and talking to my husband now I wasn't ready to sew! So decided I'd save my sewing for the Day 5 Skype session. Except it didn't happen. I texted my MIL in the morning to find out what was a good time for her. She said she had errands to run so would call me when she got back. Since my husband was unexpectedly off for the day, I spent the day catching up with things with him while waiting for the call. However, she didn't call until late because she got a late start on the errands and by then was too tired to focus on sewing. We made tentative plans again for today (Day 6) and I ran errands with my DH in the morning expecting to link up with her in the afternoon. However the call I got today was that she had not slept well because of pain so had gone in to see her doctor again and was still a little out of sorts for lack of sleep.
It is real tough to lose a spouse and/or a child. While monitoring her health issues, I plan to also suggest that she might consider a grief counseling group because I think some of the "pains" have to do with dealing (or more likely, not adequately dealing) with the grief. I went through a similar thing when my mother died and once I sorted out my feelings the physical pains went away.
However, I also know that grieving takes time so I expect my DH and I will be keeping in close contact with her a lot in the coming year. When he chose his 2021 vacation weeks back in October, we had set aside two weeks in October again to return to see her. When I told her that, her response was "But that's a year away!". So we're trying to see if he can swap a vacation week with a co-worker so we can combine it with one of the weeks earlier in year that has already been chosen. We could do a one week visit IF the vaccine helps reduce the return quarantine restrictions but so far I've heard not to expect that before mid-year or Fall of next year.
So hopefully tomorrow, I will get back to my own sewing for both the last of the seven days and the start of a new year. Let's hope for us all that 2021 will be a darned sight better than 2020 was! To any who have survived to the end of this very long post, I wish you and your family a safe and Happy New Year!!
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| Here's some of the garlic curing. |
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| A completed center still waiting for some borders! |
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| This is as far as I got last year. |
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| I watched from Season 1.... |
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| ...through Season 5! |
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| As always, I'm with Bonnie! |
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| Jessica Abel's blog post on "Granularity" sums up the solution quite well. |
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| Just one of the motivational signs I hang in my quilt space. |
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| Now that's a Quilter's idea of a Happy New Year! |
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| Two down, four to go! |
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| Sorry for the hazy picture. |
Be careful what you water your dreams with...
water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream...
water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success...
always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success...
always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream....
~Lao Tzu